Road Trips and Picnics

Banquet on a Blanket for Two

There is something to be said about leaving the city behind, getting away for a day, enjoying whatever beautiful views nature offers you, stuffing yourself silly and then lay back with a glass of wine or whatever liquid takes your fancy. When the sun is shining there’s only one thing to do…and that is, go on a picnic.  Now picnics are not only good for the happily involved but they are essential when trying to win her back!  Obviously the weather plays an important part but remember, you can picnic both indoors and outdoors.  All it takes is a little creative imagination.

The Romantic Picnic
Most importantly you must find a place that’s sheltered from the wind yet has a lovely view. Set the scene with candles or lanterns, and your loved one (yes her) will be eating out of the palm of your hand! For dinner include:

·        Fresh, organic vegetables such as baby carrots, cucumber fingers, baby sweet corn, broccoli, cherry tomatoes and serve with dips such as guacamole, hummus or chopped tomato in cottage cheese, suggests planning and preparation and you can grill the vegetables beforehand for something a little different.

·        Cold meats with cheeses such as Camembert and Brie also work well as snacks. The cheese can also be eaten with fruit or crackers.

·        It’s always a good idea to stick to finger foods for romantic picnics; this way you can feed each other.

·        For something more substantial, make a variety of wraps with cottage cheese and pineapple filling; and pita bread with stuffed with tuna salad, feta and avocado, or feta and carrot.

·        A bottle of wine or bubbly makes it a special occasion, but remember to first check whether alcohol is allowed at your picnic spot of choice — and pack two of your prettiest glasses for the occasion.

·        Round off your rendezvous with some decadent dark chocolate-tipped strawberries. 

Although it seems as though this is a daunting task, and it really doesn’t have to be.  A little planning beforehand can make you look like a pro and what better way to impress her than if you can honestly tell her you prepared it yourself.  Certain foods are easy and quick to prepare such as cheese and crackers, muffins, grapes, strawberries (these always score big points for the romantic), chips and dips etc., always work well. Throw in a bottle of wine or some champagne or if going for something non-alcoholic – a chilled fresh fruit juice. When organizing your picnic basket the utensils you bring with are very important. Make sure you also pack enough blankets and pillows for extra comfort.
Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of “Getting Her Back… for Good” and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.

Looking Into the Mirror of Your Relationship

Everyone, sometime in their life has been disappointed in love.  Breaking up is hard to go through, especially if you are not ready for it.  If, after a breakup, you realize you still want your ex back, you need to be proactive about it.  In order to do so, you need to reflect back on your relationship and try and understand where it went wrong.

Generally speaking, most relationships follow a predictable pattern.   There is the honeymoon period where you first meet someone and everything is wonderful and new.  They can do no wrong and you can do no wrong in their eyes.  The sex is fantastic, the chemistry electric but after while, this starts to feel more comfortable rather than exciting.  You start to adjust to one another, make compromises, and at this point, the relationship changes again. I call this the “establishment” period.  At this point, cohabitation often occurs, a little “nesting” starts to rear its head and “she” and “he” become “we”.

A little further down the line comes the “disenchantment” stage where suddenly the little quirks that amused you and you were willing to overlook now start to bother you and in fact, often become the “bone of contention” as a means to “pick a fight”.  This is the true test of a relationship and it is this particular phase of the relationship that you need to reflect upon.  If you believe you can save your relationship after this deep reflection then you need to do the following:

  1. Apologize!

So many “fools of love” out there say, “treat em mean, keeps em keen” and they are so far off the beaten track that they will never find their way on the path to true love.  It takes strength of character and great sacrifice to apologize particularly if you do not believe you were in the wrong.  However, sometimes it really is worth “losing a battle to win a war”.  Once you have taken this first step, the rest is not that difficult to follow.  Remember, it takes two people to have a successful relationship and knowing exactly what to apologize for is crucial.

  1. Talking things through, face to face

Invite your ex to meet you at a time and place convenient for you both where you can sit down and talk.  The idea is to be quietly assertive, not forceful, but intent enough to get her to agree to meet you face to face.   You both need to chat about the issues objectively, without blame and maturely. If necessary, suggest couple counseling with a therapist so she can see that you are serious in your quest.

  1. Give her some time and space – don’t pressurize her

This is probably one of the hardest things to do but by allowing your ex space not only gives her a chance to calm down and reflect, but also to miss you and it is true that as time passes, one only remembers the good times.  By allowing a little time to pass, takes the heat of the anger out of the equation and emotions to settle into places of calm.  This can only work in your favor.

  1. Treat her like a lady

This doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to take her on a triple Treat of Champagne Breakfast, Balloon and Boat Ride but it does mean you need to do things differently!  She is the most important person on earth to you; show her this in your actions, not only in your words!

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of “Getting Her Back… for Good” and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.

The SWOT Method of Getting Her Back

So serious is your intention on getting her back that you need to devise a strategy and one that will work.  So here comes the SWOT technique.  Now I don’t mean SWAT as in the beefed up security force who all have the good looks and bodies of Hollywood stuntmen but the SWOT of any strategic planning mission.  You need to identify your Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats.

So your Vision is:  To get HER back

Your Mission is:  Identify whatever means, methods and timelines it will take to achieve your objective in as short a time as possible.

You need to create your “Strategic Plan”.  So first things first and that is to identify your strengths.  Well that is pretty easy right!  WRONG!  Remember, she left you so obviously your strengths were not as “strong” as you would have liked.  Now is the time to sit down and do some contemplative thinking.

In so far as your weaknesses go, the best part of this is that most of it is already covered in strengths above because sometimes, the absence of certain strengths is seen as weaknesses. For example, each of the following may be considered weaknesses:

  • lack of apparent affection and tactility (the touch factor)
  • a poor communication technique
  • spending too much time in front of the Television
  • spending too much time with the boys
  • lack of appreciation for all that she does
  • lack of cooperation and help around the home

So use these “weaknesses” to work on improving and adding to your strengths.  I can assure you, if you think you don’t have any weaknesses, phone up some of her girlfriends and I bet they will give you at least 10 right off the bat.

In a business environment, opportunities are normally external so this is where her family and friends come in.  (Provided they agree to talk to you). If not, consider that a weakness or a threat and deal with it in that regard).  If there is some unfulfilled need of your exes, now is the time to identify it and utilize it.  Maybe she wants a puppy?  Pay a visit to the pound and get her one, that way you are maximizing the situation – supporting charity and scoring a big brownie point with her.  Whatever the case, the opportunities are there, you just need to find them.

Threats could be a slap in the face, extreme rejection, the fact she may already have moved on or that she really just does not love you any more.  So you need to identify what these threats could be and make sure that you have a plan that can eliminate all of these threats ensuring that she comes back to where she belongs, in your arms and in your bed!

Yes it might sound a little cold and analytical to compare your ‘modus operandi’ of “getting your ex back” to a strategic plan but heck, if it can save blue chip companies, why wouldn’t you use the same strategy to save the most important person in your life!

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of “Getting Her Back… for Good” and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.

Volunteer to Get Your Ex Back

Altruism is one of the quickest ways to a girl’s heart, especially if it is genuine.  You have spent so much time being self-absorbed and almost narcissist in nature that it’s time you gave back and what better way than volunteering at a soup kitchen and inviting her to come along.  So how would you go about it?

Well firstly you would have to convince her how much you have changed and how having had her out of your life had made you realize how much and how many people you took for granted.  This had brought you to the realization that one of the ways you could give back to society was to volunteer for a worthwhile cause and that to prove this; you wanted her to come along and experience the wonderful gift of giving alongside you.

With a little research on a volunteer database, you can contact the soup kitchen to see what they need.  If it’s around holiday time, they might have an overflow of volunteers so see if there are any other services you could help with.  Find out which shifts work best for you and her and do research on the lifestyle of the homeless and hungry so that you can have a meaningful conversation with the people who make use of these kitchens.

Make sure you use meaningful eye contact, smile readily and friendly and you can rest assured that not only is this type of behavior contagious, but it will extend through to your ‘renewed’ relationship with your ex.  You can rest assured that she will be looking at you with “new eyes”.

Engaging in meaningful conversation is not only a considerate thing to do but shows those with whom you are communicating that you value them as human beings.  This will be evidenced by her standing beside you, observing you in these interactions and it will also broaden your own outlook on life and in so doing, impress her and possibly even prevail upon her to investigate and volunteer further for herself.  Giving her a sense of achievement, fulfillment even the mere act of helping out is huge in the emotional barometer of forgiveness.

Also find out if the soup kitchen has a food panty and if they do, see if you can organize donations from your local grocery stores, friends, neighbors and the like all in the spirit of giving.  Offer to collect the items personally and note that this type of collection is not just seasonal, but donations are required continuously.

Volunteering is cost-effective, a huge producer of what I call “humane endorphins”, a strong basis for the “Dr Feel Good” factor as you are actively doing, feeling and contributing with your loved one by your side.  What a wonderful way to “reunite” and reconnect both with each other as well as the community and your sense of giving.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of “Getting Her Back… for Good” and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.

Win Her Back With a Letter

“I wrote a letter to my love and on the way I dropped it”

Here is a question that guys have all the time.  Is writing letters to get your ex back really a good idea? It is indeed, provided you don’t “drop the ball” in your letter writing! Take heed gentlemen! There are many people that write letters, text messages, e-mails and just about every other form of text-based correspondence that you can think of on a daily basis.  Many of these people will resort to that form of communication when trying to get an ex-lover to fall in love with them again but does it work?

There is something to be said about writing a letter, particularly one written in your own hand.  In this day and age, many people break up over the phone, over an instant messaging program, through mail or even by text-message and as a result, there is no closure so people tend to hold grudges.  They say that the most honest way to break up with someone is in person, so surely this should work the opposite way, that is, if you want to get your ex back?

Absolutely, however it is all in what you say, how you say it and when you send it and how you offer it to her.  Some of the simple guidelines you can follow range from using neutral, soft colored stationery, a flair pen that compliments your own hand writing, and the time and place you choose to sit down and write it.  Remember that this is probably going to be a keepsake of hers, so make sure that you write from your heart, addressing her in a manner befitting, i.e. “to my darling Jacqueline”, call her “the love of your life” and start the letter off by telling her why you are writing to her. Remind her of the reasons you fell in love with her, how much she changed your life for the better and how you cannot imagine living without her.  Recall some of the special memories you shared, and all the qualities of hers that you adore.

You need to make a concerted effort in making an impression and you need to sound sincere and genuine at the same time.  If you are not sure of how or what to write, do some research on the Internet or visit a library.  There are many ways to find inspiration.  If she has a favorite author or poet, find a quote of his/hers that suits the message you are trying to convey, or better yet, visit www.TheRomantic.com and see what ideas Michael Webb has for writing a romantic letter.

When closing up on completion of your letter make sure it is neatly folded and put it into a matching envelope with her address on the outside, if you are intending to mail it and even if you do hand deliver it to her doorstop and slip it under the door.  Then you need to be patient and wait.  If you have heeded my advice above, I can assure you, you will get the response you desire so make sure you are ready for the reunion.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of “Getting Her Back… for Good” and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.

Making Up After Breaking Up

Out on the Town – Restaurants

If the two of you enjoyed eating out when it was working and she has given you the benefit of the doubt with a second chance, then spice up your dates by visiting different restaurants around town.  It is always exciting to try different cultural foods and different venues.  However, the two of you have always enjoyed a specific restaurant, use it to your advantage when you go on the romantic make up date. If you know that your she enjoys drinking a specific red wine at the restaurant, phone ahead and ask that the wine be ready at the table when the two of you arrive. Remember – Romance, particularly making up romance  is the reason behind this action – like your mother told you, “it’s the thought that counts,” and little things like this can make her feel extra-special and that you have changed.

Out on the Town – Fast Food

Okay so not everyone can afford to eat out and although it might not be healthy, fast food really tastes good! And eating it once in a while won’t kill you.   You don’t need to spend a fortune to impress her but you do need to show that you have spent time and thought and that you are genuine in your quest to apologize, prove to her that you have changed and that you appreciate her.  Order the things you love the most and then find your old/new romantic spot, spread a blanket, sit on a wall or just sit in the car and watch the sun set whilst you feast.  Once the tummies are full, it is easier to engage in conversation particularly if an apology is due.  Surprise her with a pre-planned “take out” or “store bought” dessert – her favorite.  She will not be expecting this and will be touched at your consideration.

Fast food is also a good way to organize a picnic in a hurry. For example: If your partner has had a really long day at work, and doesn’t feel like cooking dinner, pack a picnic blanket in the car and take them to their favorite fast food joint. You can then take the blanket down to the beach or a local park (where it’s safe) and enjoy a relaxing picnic together. If safety is a concern, set up the picnic in your garden at home. If the weather is not suitable, picnic in your lounge in front of the fireplace and roast some marshmallows together.

These ideas are simple, affordable and yet show that you are sincere, contrite and have a “romantic” buried deep inside you somewhere just waiting to “burst” out. 

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of “Getting Her Back… for Good” and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.

 

Lip O’ Seduction

You’ve got her to agree to going on a make up date with you but you are both aware of the need to the trust between the two of you to be rebuilt.  So it’s time to take it slow.  Agree on the limitations between the two of you upfront so there is no misunderstanding because believe you me, when you have finished with your lips, she’ll be begging for it!

Okay so agreement at hand, decision to take it slow right! However taking it slow doesn’t necessarily mean just holding hands.  You’d be surprised as to how erotic, exciting and anticipatory restricting your physical contact can actually be.

There are many types or sorts of kissing that dangle on a continuum that ranges from foreplay to after play like a g-string on a wash line.  These kisses range from playful kisses like the chocolate kiss to the cold, peeled grapes kiss.  Have I got your attention now?

The Kama Sutra lists 19 different types of kisses, but now is your time to invent more!  Pay attention to the areas of her body you have neglected before.  Just because you are kissing her doesn’t mean you have to restrict yourself to her lips.  Why don’t you pay lavish attention to her legs, working your way along her legs, always remembering your self-control.  Start at her little toes, to the top of her leg, then back down to her ankles, knees and so on, occasionally blowing against the back of her legs, alternating between hard and lighter breaths.  This technique is sure to leave her begging for more!

There is also the Chocolate Kiss.  What women wouldn’t enjoy this one?  It’s always best to use a smooth, creamy chocolate that melts easily in your mouth. The smoother the better, obviously!  Once the chocolate starts to melt, kiss her and twirl your tongues around hers.

One could also use hard but small pieces of candy, mix up the colors and try and guess at the different flavors, the fun part being trying to steal her bits of candy as she does yours.

Other creative contributors to “sweet kisses” are caramel, strawberries and cream, which involve the seductive licking of spoons, feeding one another strawberries, exchanging the strawberries with the whipping cream between each other’s mouth.

Champagne or fizzy drink can provide a different sensation so the more fizz, the better. When you are ready to kiss her, take a sip and keep some in your mouth, dribble some into your partners’ mouth gently so that you share more than spill into one another’s mouth.

Okay, so we’ve spoken about lips, but what’s inside the lips besides the tongue are the teeth.  Now that’s an interesting thought.  Starting slowly, simply graze parts of her body as you kiss her, using the edges of your teeth almost like fingernails, or as you would your tongue, lightly tickling her shoulders, arms and hands. Suck on each one of her fingers and, as you remove them from your mouth, softly apply pressure using your teeth.

If she enjoyed this, try lightly biting the back of her neck or other body parts in between passionate kissing.  Don’t overdo it and remember, when you feel you are going to lose control – STOP!  Your agreement was to take it slow, to build trust and I can assure you, by the time the next date night arrives, she will be ready to jump your bones!

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of “Getting Her Back… for Good” and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.

Make Up Date Night at Home

Entering into the Winter solstice in USA gives us the perfect opportunity for romantic make – up date ideas – just think: fireplaces, snugly duvets, hot chocolate, romantic movies and comfort foods like pizza and pasta. Here are some great ideas for getting cozy this winter. You can either organize them together as a couple (provided she has warmed up to you after the last fall out), or you can use it as an excuse to create a sense of “togetherness” or “team spirit” in trying to “glue” the relationship back together.  Alternatively, for extra romance and excitement as part of your ‘making amends strategy’, you can organize a surprise date for your partner.  One suggestion is to have a date at home and call it “Movie Night”.

If you or your partner has kids then the number one priority is finding a good baby sitter – or leaving the kids with their doting grandparents for the evening. After that, the night is all yours.

If the evening is a surprise for her, you can make her feel extra-special by organizing the movie night around her favorite things. My suggestion would be to choose a romantic “chick-flick” type movie and order her favorite take-out.   Also, don’t even think about forgetting her favorite ice-cream or dessert!

Romantic movie night means popcorn and junk food – so stock up on all of these.  The more choice there is, the more she will see how much effort has been involved. Before she gets home, make sure everything is neat and tidy and that she does not have to do any work.  You want her relaxed and pleasantly surprised.

Set up the sitting room/television area with comfortable cushions and warm blankets – you could even put a mattress on the floor.   Before you start the movie, chat about the good old days, about how the two of you met and what you thought at that moment.  Look back at the travels and enjoyable times you two had together and all the fun moments.  If need be, bring out the photo albums and browse through pictures of the two of you together and recall what was happening when that picture was taken. This is all part of the warm-up for later.

Refill the wine/champagne/snifter glasses, dim the lighting and press play.

Finally, when the movie is over and there is this “awww geesh” kind of feeling in the air, gets up silently, switch on the CD and invite your lady to dance with you to your favorite song.

I can assure you after everything else that has preceded the evening, this will be the clincher!

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of “Getting Her Back… for Good” and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.

Customize Your Own Version of Jamie Oliver’s / Michael Webb’s “Naked Chef”

The way to her heart is through her stomach while watching your hot buns bent over the gas cooker!  Preparation is important here! Make sure your home is neat, tidy and most of all, comfortable.  If you have kids, make sure you have organized a babysitter who will be on standby for “overtime”.

Set the mood by sending the invitation to her office, leave it on her bed, in her briefcase or even send a romantic electronic invite for a two-person romantic dinner.

Make sure you plan the menu well ahead of time, complete your shopping list and if you are planning to do the cooking, make sure you stick to a simple menu that leaves time and energy for the seduction.

Now’s the time for “dress up” or should we call it “dress down”. Choose a masculine apron and strip naked, leaving your front covered with just your butt cheeks showing.  Obviously you would have ensured that you are freshly showered, wearing your best aftershave and have removed any unwanted hair she might have an aversion to (be it back or butt hair for that matter!).  Make a slightly exaggerated but “cheeky” effort in transforming your lounge/dining room into a sensual, romantic setting.  Bend over catching her eyeful as you lay out the scented candles; carefully chosen mood music; and table settings, adjust the suitable temperature heating (comfortable enough to disrobe in), check the working CD/IPOD.

Now it’s time for the “main course”.  Act the part of the gentleman and tell her you are going to “dress for dinner”, and come out in your TUX (or as fancy as you have).  If she objects, saying that she would rather you stay as you are – then obey the lady, after all, the intention is to get naked anyway.

Surprise her by playing a little scene out of the movie (9½ weeks) by blindfolding her; feeding her little portions from the plate and making her guess what food it is.  If she gets it wrong, she has to pay a forfeit and what forfeit is entirely up to you – use your imagination and choose one that she would feel comfortable with.  Reverse the roles and allow her to do the same to you.  Feeding one another is a highly erotic aspect of foreplay that bodes extremely well in building up anticipation.

Last but not least, make sure you have scattered red rose petals all over the area you plan to use to make love, whether it is the bedroom, fireplace or next to the hot tub!

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of “Getting Her Back… for Good” and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.

 

Re-invent Your Sex Life

Tips on Getting Your Ex-Girlfriend or Wife Back 

 Ok so you have got her to agree to a “make up date”, your heartfelt and sincere apology has been accepted, she has agreed to give you one more chance and finally, the cherry on top – has accepted your suggestion of “coffee” at your place.

Moving on from that first “reunion” date, take time for each other whenever possible. Get the idea out of your heads that sex must happen at night in the bedroom.  Pretend you are teenagers dating and if you get the opportunity to be intimate with your partner, take it!

Take time out to be romantic again as if you were in the first stages of your relationship.  Do all the things you used to take for granted before like opening the car door for her, sending her flowers or surprising her with her favorite meal, delivered in person at lunch time or spontaneously arrive with the meal on her doorstep. It’s the little things that count.

We all know that women are hard to read, saying no when they mean yes, saying they are fine when they’re not and cry for just about any reason under the sun – so approach with caution, listen to what she is saying because they always provide subtle hints to what it is they really do what.

Keep your promises, especially if you have let her down before and whilst you don’t have to promise them the world, if you say you are going to call her back straight away then make sure you do.  It is so important to keep your word.  You have let her down with trust before, so if you don’t prove your trust with an issue as small as this, rest assured, there is no chance of gaining it in other more important areas.
Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of “Getting Her Back… for Good” and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.